Lately, we've been going at it from a different angle. One I suggested from the start.
"Get to re-know, re-learn, about each other. Build a romantic rapport".
I know a lot of guys seem to think sleeping together first, THEN, getting to know each other is the way etc. It's just backwards, and I've never fallen for it, unless of course I'm in it just for the sex.
We've been getting to know each other again, right down to the important things, like past relationships, sexual health, thoughts on ex's etc.
Turns out, he is not someone I can date casually or exclusively. We have mutual friends. One of which I dated for many years back in high school. He knows we're still friends, and we get together for dinner when he's in town. Suddenly, if we're to be exclusive, he has an issue with that. Um, what? Ya. He strongly worded that he would have an issue with me remaining friends with this ex.
I couldn't help but laugh really. I made it clear that no man would ever tell me who I couldn't be friends with, on any level. Then what? What I wear, who I hang out with? If he had an issue with it, those were his. A boyfriend of mine would have to trust me to be faithful. Regardless what the intentions of the other person are.
He doesn't believe ex's can be friends. I do. He made his points, while valid to some degree, I made mine, and decided we couldn't compromise. He refuse to see my points as valid, and frankly was quiet condescending.
We didn't have to have the discussion about not dating when he dropped me off, when I declined his own invite to come up to my apartment.
There will be no more chances. No more humouring the idea of us dating. Whilst he's entitled to his opinion of dating etc, I'm entitled to mine.
In addition, I've also declined all other offers of dating, hooking up, on any level with, that are on the table.
You have to bring more to the table than sexual advances. If you're not walking the walk you present, I simply won't be bothered.
