Gone to get another coffee....SHUT UP! I CAN QUIT ANYTIME I WANT!!!.....hmph.

Ok I may not be feeling as rough as my title, but I did utter those words to someone today. :)

Lately I have to remind myself if I have nothing nice to say, then to shut the fuck up. Seriously.
I have this blog to vent away, no one in my real life needs to hear me squawk about anything fluffy.

I know I just made myself sound like a horrible person who walks around bitching at people, and as much as I secretly wish I could at the best of times with no repercussions, sadly I can not. Although I wonder when it become socially acceptable to act like a friggin tool to random people in general, cos you can?  GRRRR...

Maybe it's the heat we've been having that's making it hard to bite my tongue in public??  This morning I schooled a few men on the bus as politely as I could without making a scene.
I was sitting in the seating at the front of the bus (reserved priority seating for the elderly and handicap etc- cos I get off not too soon after the trip starts). with one other women and about 6 healthy men aging 18-40.
Just as the bus is about to take off an older person with obvious stability issues got on and just looked around.  Seriously, its too early for this.  I smiled at the woman, giving her my seat while addressing the men directly on the bus in the sweetest voice I could mustard.... "That's okay gentlemen, don't get up". 

I thought the driver was about to kick some ass the way he flew off his seat to turn around and look (give dirty look) at the 4-6 men who couldn't look up from their papers. The driver added to my comment directed at the front seats, "When did having manners become an option?" in a less than amused tone.

It's far and few between when I see a driver who will stop and let the person who just ran hard to catch the bus as the bus pulled less than a foot away from the curb get on the bus. (once they pull away, legally they are not suppose to stop) Or a driver who will wait to start driving again while the elderly person gets seated instead of jerking the bus forward the second he/she sees their bus pass.

Most mornings I admit I'm sitting at the back of the bus with my headphones on trying to block out the annoying teenagers or adults conversing about their weekend so loudly, you couldn't avoid it if you wanted.
But for the love of gawd if you're sitting at the front and someone gets on, don't wait for the driver to tell you to move and give a look of disgust that you had to stand while someone in need really requires that seat... cos you will be old one day or be injured and need that seat. Imagine your surprise when no one gets up or acknowledges you.

Okay morning rant over... I think. More coffee please.

I've started up again with the online dating. Mistake I think. I've had several female and male friends view it for me to see if there is something suggestive about the profile that gives men the impression  I'm up for some short term fun.  My profile is clear: looking to date with long term relationship as a goal. (the site requires you fill out certain things like that etc) I have no questionable photos, and my profile is pretty generic, something about I think popcorn and marshmallows are weird, and not to contact me if you're looking for "casual hook ups". 

One male friend mentioned and this seems harsh but sadly true, my profile stats that I'm a "few extra pounds" for my body type. So what? I thought. 

He said that men view over weight women more likely to:
1) Put out sooner than not,
2) That they are under the impression that overweight women are hard up so they'd be more willing to try something kinky and wont break if the man puts his back into it.

*GASP* shut up!!! Nooooooooooo way, that can't be true. 
So I surveyed random men I know on facebook... yup, they know it isn't true for a lot of women but on a site like POF it is.   Crap. I'm doomed.

I think I might just delete my profile if that is going to that way... or change my body type to average then inform men asap that I am indeed a few extra pounds and explain why I have my BT as average...
I've learned a lot from this dating site. How to read men quicker by their profiles, how to spot the liars (if you're 5'8 do not put you're 5'11 or 6ft, we're not stupid). What gets me about the men who seem so comfortable about soliciting myself and others for casual hook ups, is would they act like this in person or is just cos its the internetz?  

I actually received a message yesterday that said the following... "Hi, How are you tonight? If you're up for doing something how about a movie and cuddle? let me know if you're interested"

I messaged him back cos his profile was normal an if I had seen him first I probably would have messaged him first.

"Thanks for the msg. Are you serious? 
Since your profile doesn't hint that you're an ass, and you OBVIOUSLY did not read mine, I'm going pass and strongly suggest you change your profile to match that of what you're seeking or take the 30 secs and read the profile of the women you're are messaging so not to waste their time. If I was looking for casual flings I would make sure my profile said that so anyone messaging me would know what to expect from the start. Happy Fishing"

He replied: "Holy relax, I just wanted to have a relaxing, quiet night with someone. I'm not looking for casual flings, I just like curvy women, sorry you took my message to be offensive".

I really should learn to just leave it alone....I replied:

Really *I* should relax?
You just msg me asking me to snuggle with you before you even know my name as your first outgoing message. Doesn't that seem a little backwards to you? Besides all women after the age of 16 know that a "movie and snuggle" is code for let's fool around.  If you weren't looking for a fling, you would have never messaged me such a ridiculous suggestion.

Maybe you're knew to online dating, so take it this piece of friendly advice for what it's worth.
If you wouldn't ask a woman you just met in line at the grocery store to come over and snuggle, why would you ask that of someone online? 

Some of us on here are actually looking to meet men worthy of dating and your first impression on here matters more than it would if you met casually through friends at a party etc.

Don't get me wrong I'm not jilted or a man hater, I just have little patience for this kind of stupidity.

He replied : You might single a long time. Shame I'm a nice guy and you're going to miss out.
Mine: We'll never know now will we?

Normally I wouldn't give anyone a second though and just delete a message that comes in like that.

Now let me clarify that not all messages that I receive are like this, this one just set me off.

HAPPY MONDAY READERS!

Hello Singlehood? Looks like we're going to be here a while.