It's done. I'm down 1 sibling. My one particular sister has had a history of ruining my holidays.
If she isn't making it about her.. oh wait, it's never not about her.
We have two family pages on FB that are private to our families only. A cousin who isn't tech savvy, (neither am I) to upload an email update from another cousin regarding one of our Aunts. This I can do.
My sister made comments HOURS after the fact and having 'liked' the posts, about why SHE wasn't sent the email, and if they send it to her now, she'll post it. All this on the posting about the Aunt. She's read it, and commenting to resend it so she can post what she just wrote on.... I can't wrap my head around this logic.
She starts texting me about not being able to see any of the posts I made, and that she isn't a member of the family pages. Sigh. I informed her because she blocked me at Xmas, she wouldn't be able to see any posts I make on FB, regardless of where they are. I tell her she had to have unblocked me in order to see the post, to write on it etc., and that she is on both pages cos she's commented on BOTH. She argues and disagrees with me.
(insert hard eye roll)
She starts posting on our family pages about how I've blocked her, and a tonne of other nonsense. In short, she started airing the shit between us on the pages. I removed her and the posts. (I'm the admin) Texting her to not do that, grow up etc. blah blah blah..
Did I mention is she is 57?
Well this set her off. She unleashed 45 years of angst and animosity towards me. None of which were of any accuracy. And what she did get correct, I can't apologise for, nor should I. (me having a better, privileged, spoiled upbringing), and so on.
I reminded her of the age gap between us, and that I grew up as an only child, with siblings outside the household. I'm not going to apologise for this.
My whole life I've strived for acceptance from my much older siblings. As I get older, I learn and recognise what exhausts me, and what makes me strive, and happy. I'm over it.
So over it in fact, I didn't take the high road.
I dropped the gloves, gave her a slapshot between the eyes, and destroyed the low road she had taken. All of the things I had to say were factual, and overdue. She didn't like that. Nor I had a backbone and a limit. I normally just vent here and keep it to myself for the most part in life. Not today.
When all was said and done, I informed her she was no longer considered my sister. That relationship is 100% over. Unrepairable. I didn't make this decision in haste. While she was spewing her built up hate at me via text, I was weighing if any of this was worth it. It wasn't.
I am at a place in my life where the constant turmoil, and petty bullshit isn't worth entertaining further.
She is a petty, childish, narcissistic, toxic bitch. That's being polite.
It has taken me a long time to where I am 100% okay with my decision. Nothing good ever comes from talking to her. Ever.
I feel lighter. Freer. Like a constant dooming negative energy has been lifted. :D
