BLOGGER HELP PLEASE

I have a blog that has shown up in my reader feed, and is polutting it with it's blog updates. The only thing is, I don't follow this blog. It's spam. And I can not for the life of me figure out how to remove them from showing up in my reading list, without adding them first, which I will not do. Anyone know how to block a spammer from showing up in your reading list, that you don't follow? Any assistance would be great. Thanks

Impossible Standards? Or just standards?

I have a tumultuous relationship with my Aunt. My mum's best-friend.  Over the years, she's attached my character, love life, weight, education,employment, memories, and once even calling me a liar in regards to my gymnastics history. Cos SHE didn't know that I was competing at, it didn't happen. Throw down hissy fit didn't happen. 

My siblings, would disagree, as they had to escort me too and from meets/competitions until I was old enough to go myself. I laughed it off, while she seriously lost her shit over it. 

Last year, she was in town, and bailed on plans we had, less than an hour before she was to arrive at said meeting place. Not even an apology, and blew it off with a very nonchalant ending. 

I lost it. I had enough. Elizabeth Singleton had pointed out regularly that "family" shouldn't treat others this way. And as far as my Aunt was concerned, I was the daughter she never had.... when it was convenient for her to consider me so.  I never noticed until E.S. pointed that too. 

Executed an email explaining how she made me feel. Like I have to beg for her time, when she's in town. It was an hour I wanted and she couldn't even give me that, cos something better came up. Long story short, I explained she owed me an apology. Period. She can not preach to others about how to treat people, and not practice it herself. I do not like inconsistent people. 

A year has passed, and although I do miss her at times, after all we have 35 years of history. It's the most relaxed I've been. Possibly ever. No longer being belittled about my love life, weight, education, employment, character over all. It's a nice, nice feeling. 

The other day, an anonymous reader wrote part the following:

"You have these impossible standards for both friendships and relationships. Then you get angry when no one can live up to them. When measured by those standards even you fall short".

Granted, maybe my expectations are higher than the anonymous reader, but then, in reality, we probably would only be acquaintances. Their comment was a result to the entry I wrote about "Do we Train people how to treat us?  I have high expectations for my relationships. And I do indeed get upset when I'm let down. Feeling dismissed, or lied too. 

Whether they're friends or romantic.  Personally, I do not see an issue with that. I like to be treated how I treat others. I have standards. I hold my friendships, romances, and any other connect as a sacred thing. Too many people are too casual about how they treat others.

I am excellent at compromising. Being flexible. Although I do believe I ever blog about that. I only bitch about short comings, and disappointments here. It's also no secret, that I'm wound tight a lot of the time. I feel what I'm feeling in the heat of the moment. That needs work. I admit it. 

Acquaintances are the people I like, however deem them either unreliable, or a little flaky etc. Or maybe I like them for specific things, but wouldn't lose sleep over them bailing nearly as much, cos I don't put much effort into them. Those are acquaintances, not friends. Friends, are reliable, trust worthy, awesome in general. I may not talk to, or see them every day, but know when it counts, they're there. 

There is a difference. 

My issue may actually be, that I've considered some people friends, when they should be in the acquaintance pile. Anonymous reader, I am considering what you said. I don't necessarily  agree with it, but it's been food for thought for sure.  

I'm sure there are those of you out there, that have been let down by those you trust, or hold to a certain standard. 

There's An App For That!

For those of you who've read my blog long enough, you know I have stomach issues. Bum Burps.
I have IBD, Colitis, Crohns... depending on what doctor you talk too.  The best success has been treating the issues/episodes as they were colitis and/or crohns related, and I have excellent success at keeping things calm.

Everything has been reasonably uneventful until recently....

TMI WARNING! 

Couple weeks ago, I had a bit of an issue. Enough so, that a few hours later, it warranted a trip to the hospital. Ugh. Since then, I've seen a specialist (5 days later), slowly cutting gluten from my diet for 6 months as an experiment, I haven't had a proper BM in all that time. Either the texture, or colour is wrong. ugh.

The gastrologist asked me to track every.single.BM from now til it starts to behave more regular.  I gringed at the thought of having to track this. That is until I overheard someone on the train talking about a sibling (similar situation) and tracks it with an app!!!

NO SHIT! hahaha ya ya there's a pun.

I am now effortlessly tracking everything on a app called POOPLOG. As silly as it sounds, it's so easy. Not to mention the icon is a small steamy pile of...... well, poop. hahahaha

Every week, I try to eliminate a new gluten from my diet. So far, I've switched pasta, and beer. Avoid soy sauce, and any caramel colouring. Thanks Single & Picky for the advice! I'll be picking your ear more.
I really thought I'd be missing out on some food, or would be hungry having to try sans gluten for a bit. I no longer think that. I'll occasionally miss fried foods.

Next topic coming up......