Abuse.

In 8 days my bestfriend will be here, forever.  So anxious for her arrival, that once she arrives I'm not even sure what to do with her. It will be anything but the usual roommate dynamics that is the norm.

I'm going to assume that once she's here I will have less time to blog, or will be blogging more often to vent about the proceedings in her life. (mmore positive from here on out)

She found the resources, strength, self respect to leave an abusive relationship. Spousal abusive on any level still seems to be a no-no to talk about.
Like somehow these women (and sometimes men) should be embarrassed and/or hide the abuse.

But I'm not one to listen to what others are doing and will post links, about it and anything else I want.

http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/pi/fv-vf/facts-info/sa-vc.html
This is a great link from the Department of Justice of Canada on Spousal abuse- Fact sheet.
Read it. You'll be surprised at what you'll learn.

As women, I think we should be more educated in schools, work places, homes, friends, and family.
This is NOT a topic that should be romanticized.  It's real.
Unfortunately too real and more often than not, deadly for some.

There was a commercial about spousal abuse with Keira Knightley - Isn't it time someone called out?
http://www.guardian.co.uk/media/2009/apr/02/keira-knightley-domestic-violence-ad

This Anti Abuse commercial was pulled from the airwaves for debates of being "too graphic".
ARE FRIGGIN KIDDING ME!? 
It needs to be made more publicly aware! I mean we out "johns" for paying for prostitutes, but hide abuse? Something seriously wrong with governments around the world for shoving this topic under the carpet.

To me it's more common sense is the more social aware people are on topics (of any kind) The more power/knowledge you give the public, the less likely these things will continue to happen. Thats my opinion.
I could be wrong and I'm sure it's easy for me to sit at my desk, bruised and emotionally free of any abuse, but I'm affected by it regardless, cos it's happening to those I'm close with.

My own mum (before I was born) was subject to a form of abuse, and I've grown up learning that should a man ever lay a hand on me, or try to belittle me in any way shape or form, to leave. Never look back.
Possessions are just that. Your life can not be replaced and the mental and emotional affects can last a life time that may result in that person self medicating, making poor decisions and worse, start to believe that the abuser was right or they deserved what they got.

I cant even begin to tell you how infuriating this is.  Why shouldn't people talk about it.
Yes it's embarrassing, but by not speaking out, you're only empowering the abuser.

If you know someone, be there for them, research the resources for them, send it to a private email, facebook account or something that the abuser can not obtain.

Think of abusers are criminals. They are. They are sneaky, munipulative, corrupt. Think of them as drug deals, cos they will go to no lengths to get their "fix" of infor that will fuel the next attack. Physical, emotional, economic (yes), financial, spiritual. There are so many forms of abuse aside from the physical.

Educate yourselves, sisters, brothers, parents, and children.

I'm reved up now, and will write more at a later time.

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