Ulitmatums

I was given an ultimatum a few days ago. "it's me or him".

The "me" is a girlfriend of mine, that I've been having trust issues with.
The "him" is a man I love. Who doesn't want me.

I've never picked a guy over a gf before. Let alone a guy who doesn't want me.
After reading the reasons the gf listed, and really, not all were off track. I am guilty of the things she said.
Being insecure being the No.#1 item on her list.Some were just simply mean. Not being baited into calling her out on a list of things, I closed my eyes, and chose to listen to my gut.

Even though she wrote a seemingly convincing argument for our friendship, the thought of choosing her over a man, red flags still went up.

She wants me to delete him from my life to save our friendship. Yet, she won't do the same.
She swears up and down, she's not into him, yet puts herself in places where there is a high chance of running into him.

It's not so much that I choose him, as much as I simply didn't choose her.
Instantly felt better. In my gut, I made the right choice.

Even though the man doesn't want me, I know where I stand with him. He's honest. Tells me the truth, even if it's not in my favour. With her.... she consistently says one thing, and does another, more often than not. Then tries to play it off with  I luv u's and being all cute acting like the women in her life are what make her strong, then goes back to being shady, and inconsistent. It's not a habit that only occurs with me.

Never give people an ultimatum, less you're willing to walk away.
Cos it will never work out the way you hope.