, After a day off and much discussion with Elizabeth Singleton we've decided that Crazy C is thicker than I am capable of handling.
Ms. Singleton reminded me of her experiences with someone previously in her life who behaved the same way. She suggested I not make my life so available to her eg: facebook statuses. It's never occurred to me that I give away entirely too much information. Like - Renew licence, do chores, go on date, volunteer at the museum, see Rosco play.. It's going to be a good week. She NEEDS to know where and what I'm doing all the time. Like she's entitled to know. I deleted my updates.
And almost immediately, Crazy C started to panic, just as Singleton said she would when she couldn't see what I was up too via FB. "She needs to keep tabs on you."
In the last 60 hours,(started Tuesday night) here are the emails from Crazy C.
Wednesday night:
Email #1 - Gottza gettza a new phone.
Email #2 - Dino hasn't arrived yet. Haven't heard from him. (Ok I have no idea who/what a dino is)
Email# 3- Where are you? Hello.
Thursday all day:
Email #1 on facebook- What the f is going on with you? i cant find you anywhere...
Email #2 on my work account - Hello? (my out of office notice in on at this point)
Cell starts to ring as I'm on the phone with Singleton, it's Crazy C. No msg is left. No Text.
Email # 3 on facebook - Where are you?
Email #4 - Are you alright?
Friday - Today:
Email #1 - Hello? Where the F are you?!!?!!
Email #2 - HELLLLOOO!!!! Clearly you're at work, your out of office is off now!
Email #3 - Are you coming in today?
I honestly thought I'd be able to just ignore her, or tell her I'm just not interested in hanging out anymore.
I have tact most of the time, however this is going to be much much harder as I'm dealing with someone who's mental stability and reality are cloudy, very very cloudy. Again, I'm not dissing her cos of her mental illness, I'm dissing her cos it's becoming apparent she isn't taking care of her mental health properly. And projecting that the state of her happiness depends on me. (no seriously, that's not ego talking)
As suggested, she will try and twist the events as this is all my fault etc, and there is probably a whole other series of events that she imagined took place in her head all leading up to this. And in her brain, I somehow owe her an explanation. I'm going to try and turn this around on her. "What is with the WTF emails?, What's up?"
I will not be updating my facebook status with anything relevant for the next few weeks. And I might, just might have to quit the museum for the time being.
I want to see the good in everyone, but my crazy bullshit radar has been clearly defective for the last couple years. It's almost like I'm inviting this shit into my life. I'm not, I swear.
I made a joke that if I ignore her long enough, I might just find her in my room watching me sleep or something. We laughed, but not in that HAHAH way, it was more ha-ha-um-ya.
There is a strong possibility, that I will have to quit working at the museum for the time being.
I will be discussing this with the curator, as see if we can work something out. I rather not have him talk to her, cos it will just escalate things. It's already uncomfortable the best of times to see her once a week.
If it wasn't for Ms. Singleton really pointing out some obvious things, who knows how much longer I would have let this go on. I went back and read all the entries about Crazy C since this all started. I learned something. 1. I should have stopped this after the first outside of work hangout. 2. It IS escalating.
This all started Tuesday when Crazy C was going thru my friends list, and got waaaaaaaaaay too excited about one person in particular. Actually she freaked right out. (Singleton & I have this person as a mutual friend) She claims they had made out forever ago, (in reality, maybe it was a kiss on the cheek, who knows) Started to demand information on this person. How I knew them, how I came to have him on facebook, wanting personal information on him. Umm that is NEVER, read, NEVER going to happen.
I screwed around with fb and can not be sure how I did it, but I manage to block my friends list from everyone. Last thing I need is her going thru my list and start messaging men (celebrity or not) and making me look bad. She has not mentioned she can no longer see my list. However there is always the possibility she messaged them before I was able to block it.
I'm exhausted just thinking about her. Never mind dealing with her in person.
It will have to come to the point where I just talk to her and explain that her behaviour is erratic.
If it wasn't for the fact I like working at the museum so much, this shit would have ended forever ago.
There will be tears. Probably screaming at me. And then the bad mouthing me, like she does every single other person that works there.
Except the curator who she is in love with and insanely jealous of me having a more personable relationship with him. He gave me a pat on the back last week for helping out etc.. nothing inappropriate, but a rub on the shoulder. She saw it and mentioned it later.. HE TOUCHED YOU!?
YOU KNOW HE'S NEVER GOING TO LEAVE HIS G/F!!!
um. wtf? I told her to relax and that it wasn't a big deal, he was thanking me.
HE NEVER TOUCHES ANYONE!!! NEVER!!!! In my head I'm hearing.. "he never touches me!"
How do I deal with this shit? Its seriously has stopped being comical.
At the same time I feel like I'm being a shitty person for wanting to drop her, knowing she has issues.
ARG.
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Um, who you calling "Crazy C?" Lay off! Oh- what? Not me? Never mind.
ReplyDeleteAlso- "ha-ha-um-ya." Great laugh. Also an effective meditation mantra.
Tell miss needy-skank that she's annoying and clingy, and that she's pushing you away. Tell her she either gives you space or you're DONE. Done, son!
Caleb
PS Read my blog right MEOW.
STALKER!
ReplyDeleteThat's about it-- have you googled her to see if she perhaps has any history of stalking prior to you? This is NOT a laughing matter. In fact, it's VERY scary.
Unfriend her on fb now. I would also look into changing locks and phone #s. Seriously. You never know how much crap she may have gotten ahold of.
My fb status' are usually something boring... Right now it says "Thank you for this beautiful day". No location. No hints of what I am doing.
BE SAFE!
THank you!
ReplyDeleteI'm going to use those words exactly!!!
Well not all of them but the clingy pushing me away stuff.
Ans yes sir, I read your blog immediately.. meow.
Kas - It is NOT funny.
ReplyDeleteI am however going to email her some of the words Caleb suggested and add my own twist to it etc.
I've emailed the curator today advising I wouldn't be in today and asked to make some time to chat via phone or email. Just going to give him a heads up of my course of action, so he can guage her behaviour etc.
I'm not chaning locks etc.. I have the extra keys hidden, not hanging on the key hooks etc.
I've changed how much she can see on my fb. Deleting her will be the next step, based on her reaction. I'll be as kind as I can be, but stern with the boundaries I'm going to lay.
I haven't thought about googling her.. I'm on it now. Thanks.
p.s. this will be the third stalker I've ever had. The first two were served with no contact orders.. both of whom I'd never met, in person.
Man I have a great track record.
Oh sorry dear - I would say I kind of agree with Kas, this person seems like they are unstable. Be careful - I think I can speak for all of us we prefer you safe and happy.
ReplyDeleteWhat the HELL??!!! I've been so busy these last couple of days, I'm just now reading this.
ReplyDeleteOkay, you cannot take the evasive approach with this nut. I know you're trying to preserve what millimeter of sanity she may have by not hurting her feelings but you've got to take her off the nipple.
Unfriend her(if you haven't done so already) and BLOCK her from being able to contact you on FB again.
Of course, she'll be on you tough with e-mails and texts, calls etc.. but since I just went through this a few months ago with the same type of cyber stalker, it eventually subsided.
Geesh, what is wrong with people???
@Hangover.... keep reading, it gets better!!
ReplyDeleteShe deleted me and I blocked her name from being able to search me.