My siblings, would disagree, as they had to escort me too and from meets/competitions until I was old enough to go myself. I laughed it off, while she seriously lost her shit over it.
Last year, she was in town, and bailed on plans we had, less than an hour before she was to arrive at said meeting place. Not even an apology, and blew it off with a very nonchalant ending.
I lost it. I had enough. Elizabeth Singleton had pointed out regularly that "family" shouldn't treat others this way. And as far as my Aunt was concerned, I was the daughter she never had.... when it was convenient for her to consider me so. I never noticed until E.S. pointed that too.
Executed an email explaining how she made me feel. Like I have to beg for her time, when she's in town. It was an hour I wanted and she couldn't even give me that, cos something better came up. Long story short, I explained she owed me an apology. Period. She can not preach to others about how to treat people, and not practice it herself. I do not like inconsistent people.
A year has passed, and although I do miss her at times, after all we have 35 years of history. It's the most relaxed I've been. Possibly ever. No longer being belittled about my love life, weight, education, employment, character over all. It's a nice, nice feeling.
The other day, an anonymous reader wrote part the following:
"You have these impossible standards for both friendships and relationships. Then you get angry when no one can live up to them. When measured by those standards even you fall short".
Granted, maybe my expectations are higher than the anonymous reader, but then, in reality, we probably would only be acquaintances. Their comment was a result to the entry I wrote about "Do we Train people how to treat us? I have high expectations for my relationships. And I do indeed get upset when I'm let down. Feeling dismissed, or lied too.
Whether they're friends or romantic. Personally, I do not see an issue with that. I like to be treated how I treat others. I have standards. I hold my friendships, romances, and any other connect as a sacred thing. Too many people are too casual about how they treat others.
I am excellent at compromising. Being flexible. Although I do believe I ever blog about that. I only bitch about short comings, and disappointments here. It's also no secret, that I'm wound tight a lot of the time. I feel what I'm feeling in the heat of the moment. That needs work. I admit it.
Acquaintances are the people I like, however deem them either unreliable, or a little flaky etc. Or maybe I like them for specific things, but wouldn't lose sleep over them bailing nearly as much, cos I don't put much effort into them. Those are acquaintances, not friends. Friends, are reliable, trust worthy, awesome in general. I may not talk to, or see them every day, but know when it counts, they're there.
There is a difference.
My issue may actually be, that I've considered some people friends, when they should be in the acquaintance pile. Anonymous reader, I am considering what you said. I don't necessarily agree with it, but it's been food for thought for sure.
I'm sure there are those of you out there, that have been let down by those you trust, or hold to a certain standard.
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