My weekend was suppose to be full of laughter from both kids, and adults. All while relaxing and sitting in the river all zen like for 48 hours, and free of all outside worldly influences... (electronic gadgets)
It ends right there.
From the moment we arrived at the campsite where a group of people I'm not close with, have been set up etc already for a week. The yelling commenced in less than 10 mins. Haven't even unpacked the car yet.
The worse parenting I'd have ever witness, and drama unfold. I almost hoped on a Greyhound bus back to the city before the end of the first night.
The river was amazing, Very shallow, but had a strong current.
All day and the night before, I've heard parents in our group yell at their kids for the dumbest things. The kids were great, doing what kids do. So that annoyed me that they were being yelled at. Myself and another spoke up a few times...
The last straw happened, and I lost my shit completely on one woman who did not watch her child all weekend! He's 3. has a slight developmental challenges, and the attention span of an excited fruit fly, well because, HE"S 3!!!!
He lost a water shoe in the river.. I chased after it, and it went away too fast. Trying to console this little guy that it was only a shoe, yes maybe his favourite one, but only a shoe, he turned and tried to run after it, almost being swept downstream himself, had I not been standing right beside him...
He goes to tell him Mummy he lost his shoe, visibly upset. She starts screaaaaaaaaaming at him. "I told you not to wear those shoes in the river yesterday! see what happens when you don't listen?" ....and I mean screaming at him!!!!
Did I mention the shoes he had on, were water shoes?!!!!
It was embarrassing. Myself and another camper are still in the river saying.. Listen, its a shoe, not the end of the world. Then all hell broke out..
"JS! DON"T EVEN!! I'M HIS MOTHER!!!...."
I looked at the camper beside me, asking, is this really happening? Fuck this!
My reply: as calmly as I could, cos I was about to take her fucking head off...
"If you're his mother, then maybe you should get your ass into this water and monitor your own child rather than sitting with your back to the water drinking for the last 3 hours! And had we not been in the water when he lost his WATER shoe, you might not have a 3 yr old to yell at right now!"..... I went and sat back down in my chair a few feet away in the river. Her bestfriend also up at the campsite, was also telling her, it's just a shoe..
When the mother came down to apologize, I walked away.. The host of the campsite who invited us all, went off on her... this is all quite quiet but I'm close enough to hear it..
"Your a bitch! if JS hadn't hussled to catch the shoe, she might not have been close enough to grab your kid in time, and that's how you talk to her? I'm tired of this bullshit, your drama and all the fucking yelling". It was none stop yelling of "don't do this/that, get down! Stop that!1...2...3..." and no follow thru, all from sitting in a chair eating adult brownies, and drinking. What a relaxing weekend so far.
We've been at the campsite less than 5 hours.
good times!
Being the adults we are, we all push it back, move forward making the best of our time left there.
The host of the site, had been gracious enough to let me sleep in her kid free zone trailer. Arrangements that were made before we even got there etc.. So of course we're chatting, getting to know one another, then we both discover we have people in common. My best friend LC House Guest, and her ex, the one that beat her to a pulp a few years ago. He's the host's friend.
Greaaaaaaaaat. We're hanging together, and friends with parties at war. We quickly make the pack not to discuss them, as there are two sides to every story. Yet continues to tell me all sorts of things he says etc.
I listen, scoffing at her a few times at the things she said and didn't reply.
Bedtime... I check my phone in the privacy of the trailer, to have my phone blown up from msgs from my best friend LC. Apparently the host has been reporting to the physco ex of my every move, none of which is relevant to anything going on between them. According to LC, the host told her ex, that I'm doing all the talking, and spewing their dirty laundry to the whole campground. Wow. I guess we're 12 again.
I did no such thing.
When i got home today, LC and I had a chat. I told her the things I'd heard and laughed it off cos the things said would never happen in a million years!
Silence......
As it turned out. Some of the infor I received was true. Disgusted, insulted, appalled, slapped in the face embarrassed. That not only was a few things true, but that I had to hear it from one of HIS FRIENDS! I defended her! Only to find out its true.
I'm done.
All the support, crying, research was for nothing.
LC is trying to convince me its a rare occasion, but yes things have happened etc. and they've found a common ground for the best interest of the kids. .....that's fine, until he tries to kill you again.
I have a wide range of mixed emotions going on. I'm sad, mad, and done giving a shit.
Not only was this not kept private, it was shared with all 11 adults at the campground. All who've been texting and FBing me for more infor. All of which I've advised is none of their business.
Needless to say, I wont be hanging out with this group of people ever again.
The drama put teenage girls to shame.
No more camping, bbq's, just hanging out with his group. Gawd!
Silver lining.. my life is way more normal and reasonably drama free than I had imagined.
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