Men are either stupid or simply do not care about the actions they take, or think about the consequences of their stupidity. Male readers: Please give your input.
Facebook is a wonderful thing to catch people doing stupid things, on a daily basis.
The following men have either asked me out repeatedly, or attempted to have inappropriate conversation with me.
G:
Has been asking me out religiously every week for the last year or so, up til 4 months ago. He fell off the face of the earth. Phew, he finally got the directness of declining his invites to dinner or dinner in and a "movie". I grew up beside him. He's like a little brother that I never see. Ew. Facebook update today. HE'S MARRIED as of this past weekend.
P:
Lives out of town. We occasionally have casual silly conversations that revolve around sex. No harm in it, so I thought. He lives out of town. That is until his facebook status suddenly reads ENGAGED!
Douche Bag:
We haven't chatted in a bit. Mostly cos I avoid his calls now. But shortly after we broke up. (see 3 whole days) he was back together with HRH. And engaged, again. I suspect they were back together a little before we actually broke up, what I thought was an exclusive relationship for the second time. Joke was on me again, I should have known better from the first time around. Then he pouts when I move on when he can't weasel his bullshit games on me anymore. "But, but, I miss you". Tell someone who cares.
Sadly, I miss him too at times. But not enough to be blinded by his bullshit. He's HRH very expensive divorce to come.
J:
Would like to think he has an open relationship. I do not agree and refuse to have any part of him. He says, he's allowed to wander, but she's not. Hmmmm. He tries regularly to get me to cave. I laugh endlessly. Just cos you've convinced your g/f that what you do is okay, I'M NOT OKAY WITH WHAT YOU DO! Although according to him, my opinion means nothing cos it doesn't match his. Oh darn.
MALE READERS! Answer the following please.
*Please explain to me why it is men do this?
*Are they trying to get away with what they can, cos they can?
*Are they afraid they'll miss out on something?
*Are they not getting something from the spouse they share their bed with full time that they get with me?
*Do men not understand or care that what they are doing with me, is cheating? No ring on the finger etc.. blah blah blah.. how about if the tables were turned? No, not allowed? Why not?
*Why do men continue to think I'm stupid of enough or have a lack of self esteem so low I'd be okay with these arrangements?
What am I doing that is attracting this behaviour? Chances are I'm not doing a damn thing. It's them. And my only fault is believing people are honest until they prove me wrong. And you know, they always do. I can read bullshit a mile away and before it happens, but this? It's camouflaged I tell ya. Invisible to my Jedi bullshit skills.
And then men wonder why women are crazy in the head and have trust issues.
Just Sayin...
Monday, 22 August 2011
Cranky Pants.. I think???
I'm cranky this morning.
Not even sure why, coos I was in a perfect mood when I got up. Oh, that's right. I came to work. I'm not thrilled about being here lately. It's Murphy's Law, when my manager goes away on holidays, all shit falls apart.
Instead of freaking out and doing something about the shit that is falling apart. I'm not going to do a damn thing. I'm going to let it all sit. So when she gets back, she can see just exactly what it is that takes place. People get lazy. Inept lazy, and rude...
I simply do not have the brain power or energy to deal with anyone today.
I do.not.care. about anything today.
I think I need to sleep in. I haven't slept in on a day off all month. Oh wait, I'm on holidays next week. :) Roommate will be back and extremely tired from doing the West Coast Trail for 7 days on Sunday, the same day my first friend from out of town arrives. And I still have a few hours of shit to do around the apartment. Minor stuff like finding a new home for some bookshelf stuff. But the bookshelf is full (without looking sloppy).
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Got together with my Married w/Children - Marcy Darcy sister yesterday.
It surprisingly went very well. History on this sister. If you're sick, she's dying. If you won a million dollars, she'd find something to one up you, on everything. She also has a way of turning the conversation back on to her. And not so subtly at times. So you could imagine how excited I was to spend any amount of time with her. *cough*.
The last few phone calls have been somewhat short, however there were no snide comments about my life being off track, or I wouldn't understand A, B, or C cos I do not own a home or have a husband. (not kidding you with this shit). Needless to say, I've been slightly suspicious of her and any intentions since it's all running a little too smoothly. Waiting for the other shoe to drop, if you will.
We agreed to have lunch on the waterfront yesterday. I had made a bet with myself how long it would take before I threw her into the Fraser River. That moment never came! Not once!
There was no bitching how put out she was that she had to drive in from Surrey (15 mins over the bridge, she always makes it sound like she's driving to another province, every time.) or how I should have taken the bus two hours too her cos her time is more important than mine, or any me, me, me, me, oh well back to me, me, me etc...
I was in awe of how smoothly conversation and the visit went. I'm fully convinced she's medicated. It was like talking to a completely different person!!
Not even sure why, coos I was in a perfect mood when I got up. Oh, that's right. I came to work. I'm not thrilled about being here lately. It's Murphy's Law, when my manager goes away on holidays, all shit falls apart.
Instead of freaking out and doing something about the shit that is falling apart. I'm not going to do a damn thing. I'm going to let it all sit. So when she gets back, she can see just exactly what it is that takes place. People get lazy. Inept lazy, and rude...
I simply do not have the brain power or energy to deal with anyone today.
I do.not.care. about anything today.
I think I need to sleep in. I haven't slept in on a day off all month. Oh wait, I'm on holidays next week. :) Roommate will be back and extremely tired from doing the West Coast Trail for 7 days on Sunday, the same day my first friend from out of town arrives. And I still have a few hours of shit to do around the apartment. Minor stuff like finding a new home for some bookshelf stuff. But the bookshelf is full (without looking sloppy).
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Got together with my Married w/Children - Marcy Darcy sister yesterday.
It surprisingly went very well. History on this sister. If you're sick, she's dying. If you won a million dollars, she'd find something to one up you, on everything. She also has a way of turning the conversation back on to her. And not so subtly at times. So you could imagine how excited I was to spend any amount of time with her. *cough*.
The last few phone calls have been somewhat short, however there were no snide comments about my life being off track, or I wouldn't understand A, B, or C cos I do not own a home or have a husband. (not kidding you with this shit). Needless to say, I've been slightly suspicious of her and any intentions since it's all running a little too smoothly. Waiting for the other shoe to drop, if you will.
We agreed to have lunch on the waterfront yesterday. I had made a bet with myself how long it would take before I threw her into the Fraser River. That moment never came! Not once!
There was no bitching how put out she was that she had to drive in from Surrey (15 mins over the bridge, she always makes it sound like she's driving to another province, every time.) or how I should have taken the bus two hours too her cos her time is more important than mine, or any me, me, me, me, oh well back to me, me, me etc...
I was in awe of how smoothly conversation and the visit went. I'm fully convinced she's medicated. It was like talking to a completely different person!!
Friday, 19 August 2011
I'm Allergic to Stupidity + Good Deed.
Had a great afternoon with the new roommate. We're going to get along just fine!
He laughed pretty hard at his gifts of towels and tube socks, with the card reading, "You can ruin these ones! Enjoy!" Had a long lunch together, and although I haven't met the g/f, she already has an issue with me. Great.
I blame that on her age though. She's 22, he's 37. That's okay, once she meets me, she'll love me and laugh at herself as to why she was ever worried in the first place. :)
On my way to work this morning, I decided to stop and get a coffee. A younger guy a few people in front of me looked distraught at his bank card, and had told the cafe owner he would try his card at the ATM outside the door etc. Having seen the panic on his face, I knew he wasn't going to have a good day. When I got up to the counter, I got my coffee and bought his. Walked outside to give it to him. Made his day. I read his face right, he was having issues with his card. :( I've been there. Wished him a good weekend as we got on the train, feeling okay with myself that I was able to put a smile smile on someones face with a simple purchase of a special coffee on a day where he probably really needed it. :)
Enter work.
I work with nice people but really stupid with shitty attitudes sometimes. I would like to blame their flakiness on their ages, 22-27 but it's really not an excuse cos I know many people in that age range who have families, and their shit together.
As I settle at my desk, its a mess. Total mess. And worse, I notice the weigh bills for our afternoon courier are still on my desk! This is serious and sets me off a little, cos why would you give the driver only half the weigh bills and not the rest, when they were all in the same friggin pile? Those that were left behind, were held at customs. I did what I had to do to get them released, but I shouldn't have had too. They know the routine. They know how to do this part of my job. I sent them a somewhat snarky email.
Morning,
Thank you ladies for covering reception yesterday while I was away.
Moving forward, it would be very friendly if every one returned my desk back to its original state when finishing their day.
Please ensure when doing (enter courier name here) that the driver gets ALL the weigh bills. A few parcels have been held as a result of the driver not having his copies to scan. They were left on the desk. I’ve emailed the copies to the customs export agent directly this morning. I’m sure it was a slight oversight, although next time, I’ll ask you to do this to have them released.
Thanks again for covering my desk yesterday.
Ears on their floor have advised me that this email wasn't well received. And although she couldn't be sure, she thought she might have heard the following phrases being said... "A simple thank you would have been fine". "I'm not the janitor".
That is a-okay. I really do not care that they are upset. Cos had the tables been reversed, shit would have been flying from their end.
I will follow through with what I said in the email. Next time, I will either call them downstairs to clean my desk area, or to be more of a bitch, I'll take all the mess upstairs and leave it on their desks with a note, "I'm not the janitor". Okay, in reality, I wouldn't leave the note. Though I will leave the mess on their desks.
The portion of my job they have to cover is idiot proof. So the fact they can so nonchalantly mess it up, completely annoys me.
The weekend holds follow up doctor appointments as this Accutane is kicking my butt now. Some live music, non alcoholic beer, sun, and napping!!!!
What does your weekend entail?
He laughed pretty hard at his gifts of towels and tube socks, with the card reading, "You can ruin these ones! Enjoy!" Had a long lunch together, and although I haven't met the g/f, she already has an issue with me. Great.
I blame that on her age though. She's 22, he's 37. That's okay, once she meets me, she'll love me and laugh at herself as to why she was ever worried in the first place. :)
On my way to work this morning, I decided to stop and get a coffee. A younger guy a few people in front of me looked distraught at his bank card, and had told the cafe owner he would try his card at the ATM outside the door etc. Having seen the panic on his face, I knew he wasn't going to have a good day. When I got up to the counter, I got my coffee and bought his. Walked outside to give it to him. Made his day. I read his face right, he was having issues with his card. :( I've been there. Wished him a good weekend as we got on the train, feeling okay with myself that I was able to put a smile smile on someones face with a simple purchase of a special coffee on a day where he probably really needed it. :)
Enter work.
I work with nice people but really stupid with shitty attitudes sometimes. I would like to blame their flakiness on their ages, 22-27 but it's really not an excuse cos I know many people in that age range who have families, and their shit together.
As I settle at my desk, its a mess. Total mess. And worse, I notice the weigh bills for our afternoon courier are still on my desk! This is serious and sets me off a little, cos why would you give the driver only half the weigh bills and not the rest, when they were all in the same friggin pile? Those that were left behind, were held at customs. I did what I had to do to get them released, but I shouldn't have had too. They know the routine. They know how to do this part of my job. I sent them a somewhat snarky email.
Morning,
Thank you ladies for covering reception yesterday while I was away.
Moving forward, it would be very friendly if every one returned my desk back to its original state when finishing their day.
Please ensure when doing (enter courier name here) that the driver gets ALL the weigh bills. A few parcels have been held as a result of the driver not having his copies to scan. They were left on the desk. I’ve emailed the copies to the customs export agent directly this morning. I’m sure it was a slight oversight, although next time, I’ll ask you to do this to have them released.
Thanks again for covering my desk yesterday.
Ears on their floor have advised me that this email wasn't well received. And although she couldn't be sure, she thought she might have heard the following phrases being said... "A simple thank you would have been fine". "I'm not the janitor".
That is a-okay. I really do not care that they are upset. Cos had the tables been reversed, shit would have been flying from their end.
I will follow through with what I said in the email. Next time, I will either call them downstairs to clean my desk area, or to be more of a bitch, I'll take all the mess upstairs and leave it on their desks with a note, "I'm not the janitor". Okay, in reality, I wouldn't leave the note. Though I will leave the mess on their desks.
The portion of my job they have to cover is idiot proof. So the fact they can so nonchalantly mess it up, completely annoys me.
The weekend holds follow up doctor appointments as this Accutane is kicking my butt now. Some live music, non alcoholic beer, sun, and napping!!!!
What does your weekend entail?
Thursday, 18 August 2011
Dinner & Coffee
Had dinner last night with RJM (old curator at my museum). Good times.
I asked him to bring his g/f, which I learned shortly after we started chatting about how they met etc, that they got married 3 weeks ago!!!
Conversation was good. Perfect amount of time to be at dinner. No lulls in conversation and his wife is awesome too!
LC and I had been emailing each other last week in regards to updates about her being in the house and how things are going. She mentions she'll be in town next week (current time today) and if coffee is doable. She said she'd call me.
It's now Thursday and I haven't heard squat. The work wife asked if I was okay NOT seeing her. I am. I however, am not cool with being blown off or stood up. Even with the crap we've been thru in the last year or so, you'd think some simple common courtesy would still be lodged in her mind to send an email or text to say she can't fit me in. No contact is just rude. Why bring it up then? Was it just to see if I was interested, and she had no intentions of meeting up? Is she up to regular games she's been doing for the last 23 years. Like I've said in many previous posts, I've never once been at the receiving end of her spazzy mood swings or games. I guess I am now.
Or... I'm actually a little hurt that she didn't follow through? Nah that can't be it.. :-) Even after I sucked it up and put our shit back burner too supported her through the domestic abuse she's recently endured. Maybe old habits die harder than originally thought.
Off to get home and have the new roommate move some of his stuff in today and hang out for a bit.
I asked him to bring his g/f, which I learned shortly after we started chatting about how they met etc, that they got married 3 weeks ago!!!
Conversation was good. Perfect amount of time to be at dinner. No lulls in conversation and his wife is awesome too!
LC and I had been emailing each other last week in regards to updates about her being in the house and how things are going. She mentions she'll be in town next week (current time today) and if coffee is doable. She said she'd call me.
It's now Thursday and I haven't heard squat. The work wife asked if I was okay NOT seeing her. I am. I however, am not cool with being blown off or stood up. Even with the crap we've been thru in the last year or so, you'd think some simple common courtesy would still be lodged in her mind to send an email or text to say she can't fit me in. No contact is just rude. Why bring it up then? Was it just to see if I was interested, and she had no intentions of meeting up? Is she up to regular games she's been doing for the last 23 years. Like I've said in many previous posts, I've never once been at the receiving end of her spazzy mood swings or games. I guess I am now.
Or... I'm actually a little hurt that she didn't follow through? Nah that can't be it.. :-) Even after I sucked it up and put our shit back burner too supported her through the domestic abuse she's recently endured. Maybe old habits die harder than originally thought.
Off to get home and have the new roommate move some of his stuff in today and hang out for a bit.
Tuesday, 16 August 2011
Minor Venting & 20 yr High School Reunion.
Today, if I didn't breath properly, someone was bitching at me today.
Today was the day for all errors in the past, lack of stock, and all around shitty attitudes to find me today. Not to mention, being bitched at for other people's accidents. I just happen to be the first person many see when they want to yell at someone.
Know it's a rough day when several people comment, "You're having a pop before noon and a second one?"
I graduated Class of 90' from one high school, and repeated my Gr 12th year at a different high school. That 20yr reunion is this October. And holy man did the people I went to high school with stay there!!!!
I wouldn't be surprised if the reunion gets cancelled due to a few assholes who deem the city we went to school in a dump and "beneath him" to attend if its held in a shitty restaurant, (one that will accommodate a large group for a small deposit in the city we grew up in, went to high school in) and what HE thinks all of should be able to afford,cos him and his wife didn't "shit out a bunch of money sucking babies". In the restaurants defence, it was a dump back in the day, but its been renovated to a stylish martini bar type restaurant.
Very long story short, and the facebook wall rants go on and on and on.... and on.....
shouldn't the reunion be about mingling with old high school mates, and not where it's held? You should see the shit being spewed on the reunion wall. It's crazy.
I posted my two bits, if it keeps up rent out the gym of the high school! I'm sure we could get it for free.
Sadly, due to a few assholes who are ruining it for everyone else, and not to mention my ex who is attending... the "not attending" list, is growing more and more every day, and the "attending, maybe attending" lists are going down.
Thanks assholes. If this venue isn't to your liking, maybe you just shouldn't come.
Today was the day for all errors in the past, lack of stock, and all around shitty attitudes to find me today. Not to mention, being bitched at for other people's accidents. I just happen to be the first person many see when they want to yell at someone.
Know it's a rough day when several people comment, "You're having a pop before noon and a second one?"
I graduated Class of 90' from one high school, and repeated my Gr 12th year at a different high school. That 20yr reunion is this October. And holy man did the people I went to high school with stay there!!!!
I wouldn't be surprised if the reunion gets cancelled due to a few assholes who deem the city we went to school in a dump and "beneath him" to attend if its held in a shitty restaurant, (one that will accommodate a large group for a small deposit in the city we grew up in, went to high school in) and what HE thinks all of should be able to afford,cos him and his wife didn't "shit out a bunch of money sucking babies". In the restaurants defence, it was a dump back in the day, but its been renovated to a stylish martini bar type restaurant.
Very long story short, and the facebook wall rants go on and on and on.... and on.....
shouldn't the reunion be about mingling with old high school mates, and not where it's held? You should see the shit being spewed on the reunion wall. It's crazy.
I posted my two bits, if it keeps up rent out the gym of the high school! I'm sure we could get it for free.
Sadly, due to a few assholes who are ruining it for everyone else, and not to mention my ex who is attending... the "not attending" list, is growing more and more every day, and the "attending, maybe attending" lists are going down.
Thanks assholes. If this venue isn't to your liking, maybe you just shouldn't come.
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