Mommy, they're just like me....

And This Is My Blog wrote this excellent piece about her son (possibly) knowing he's gay at 6 yrs old.

I have a nephew and many friends that are gay. I love them. regardless. (thanks jen)
She makes an excellent point , objecting that being gay is only about sexual acts. Our emotions and feelings, our attractions and compulsions, all contribute, not just our body parts.

But I do love when those that disapprove voice they're opinion, which they're entitled too when they say being gay is a choice. I always ask them (random strangers conversation or not) if I heard it, I inject my question into their conversation, "When did you choose to be straight?"

Or any of the picture quotes on FB.  Against gay marriage? Blame straight people who have the gay babies. 

Unfortunately, my one sister in-law isn't a supportive mother. At least she doesn't appear to be. They hide the fact their middle child (one of my many nephews) is gay from her side of the family. Shame. I do not care what era her parents and family are from. This is a human being, whom you loved unconditionally until you found out. And then wonders why he goes to Europe for the holidays with his friends (straight and gay) rather than coming home.

That's why I agree whole heartily with Amelia and her objection towards others who say being gay is all about sexual acts.

Marriage is marriage, not gay marriage. I parked my car, I didn't gay park it.

You do not have to agree with the topics on being gay.
I only ask you educate yourself more. Stop hate from breeding. Even if you don't agree with it. One day you could be the parent of a child who decides their gay.

I'm THAT Girl... :-(

It's official, I'm that girl. I'm the other woman.

Sim over @ The Dating Rital wrote this post today and it got me thinking.

I'm not a good person.
In her post I commented that she shouldn't trust her man, due to texts she found. I wrote what I did, cos I've been that other woman.

Sometimes knowingly, most of the time unknowingly.

In the past two years that I've been single, I've engaged in things I'd be pissed at, if it happened to me.

6 men in two years, who all had girlfriends and one wife.
Now before you light your pitch forks, it's never my intention to steal the man, though, still horribly wrong.

 I even tried justifying it. "If he doesn't respect her, why should I? Not my problem."
And for the girls I didn't know existed, I didn't feel bad, until afterwards, and honestly, had I known upfront, I probably still would have done it.

Shame.

2 of the events, I went into knowing the g/f's existed.
1 was physical. The rest were not. Only via sexting, web cam, msn/facebook chat and phone calls. I know, that doesn't make it any better. It's still cheating.

Now, I could never date any of these men. As I would never be able to trust them knowing they did what they've done with me. I would never cheat on my b/f.  Ever. So how can I do this?

It wasn't until Simm wrote her post and I got to thinking that I even saw the pattern.

I've got some serious morals, principles, self respect and dignity to revamp.  There is a picture saying going around on FB "How people treat you is their karma. How you react is yours".  It's haunting me a little.

I chose to entertain these events. Me. No gun to my head. All on my own. I chose to be the other woman. Not to maliciously hurt anyone. Not to steal your b/f. It was done out of excitement, boredom and loneliness.

I'll be making a very tangible change. I won't entertain the proposals that come my way if I know about the g/f. And the ones I don't, well that's always going to be tough. But once I find out, it will be over.

I put out good karma often, but not where intimacy matters.  I'm hating myself over that. I've never felt good about it, and tried again, many times to justify it to myself.

Just to be clear. I've never done this to any girl I've known. Ok, only one, but I do not respect her, nor him. Come to think about it, I don't respect any of the men that I've had an affair with on any level. It also appears I didn't respect myself either.

Don't judge me too harshly, I'm changing the ways. I have to live with it, and I don't want that hanging over me or come back to me 10 fold.

Sex w/friends Who Have Spouses.

Remember how I told you last week about a male friend (who has a g/f) that is pouting cos I won't sleep with him?

He updated his FB wall status with a comment aimed directly at me, the morning he originally proposed he come over and let him service me.. Ya he used the term "service me". barf.

"You can't ruin friendship with sex, it's like adding sprinkles to ice cream".
~ Raj...BIG BANG THEORY

Before you think I'm being all self important, he emailed me to ensure I had read his status update. Right, cos that will make me change my mind to sleep with you?? Or some backwards attempt to try and make me feel bad for rejecting him? Try again.
 
Boys, I swear to gawd they are missing a vital parts of their brain at times. I hope the g/f questions it.  Smart to cover it up with a quote, though anyone who knows this man, can probably see right through it.

Rotting Feet & Ass.

I ate popcorn tonight!
3 full handfuls!

For those that don't know, I HATE popcorn. I think it smells like rotting feet and ass.
Yes I know what ass smells like. Any girl who's ever had a b/f that thinks his farts are funny, knows what ass smells like.

I was craving it. That in itself is just messed up. Until til someone mentioned my body was probably craving salt. Or I was pregnant.

I've eaten popcorn tonight. I did not enjoy it, but my craving did.
Wonder how sick I'll be tomorrow?

Volunteering & Crazy C Update

Well, I might not have a volunteer job to go back to in November after recent events.

An email was sent out by the museum manager at 1am advising that a local resident walking their dog past the I.House Museum, saw a person emptying a small jerrycan of liquid onto the porch of the house.  Police were called, they found evidence (intimate details are left out of this blog as this is an ongoing investigation) belonging to the suspect. No one has been apprehended at this time. This was the second incident to happen this night. As the steamship museum also had a problem reported.

Upon my return, I was to be placed at the steamship. This makes me slightly nervous as I'd only be with one other person. The house, well there are tones of people around, but I have no interest working in the house. The museum is different and I'll test it out under the new curator.

Can't help but think the events at both locations, on the same night, are related and preformed by the same person. My instincts jump to a disgruntled employee. Or someone with a grudge against all things related to the museum(s).

Needless to say, this might just be the extra something I needed not to return in November.

Crazy C Update.
She must not know how FB notifications work.  I get an email every time someone requests my FB friendship. 3 times in the last 2 weeks,that she has requested it. Shocked, I looked up her name, finding the request is no longer there, and she had blocked me, as I can't even retrieve her name. Repeat 2 more times.  I've kept those email notifications. Just.in.case.

If it keeps up, I may have to contact her with a harassment warning.  I do not need this to slowly turn into a single white female scenario. So nipping it in the butt with a serious legal warning might be the only way to go. This would not be the first no contact or harassment order she's received. Ya, she showed all her cards early on, and I ignored them. Silly me.