He did not do anything directly to me, but his actions have raised a small yellow flag.
Conversations we've been having via email and phone have been great. Witty, silly, fluent.
I always look forward to chatting with him next. Saturday rolled around and I had a "feeling" something had changed. He emailed to ask if he could call. Which I think is always funny. Dude, if you want to talk to me, just call me. If I'm available to talk I'll answer it.
So he calls, and we're on the phone less than 6 mins (as per the time log on my phone) when he abruptly mentions he has to go and run some errands, and that he'll call me later. Um ok.
Normally he calls when he says, and if he doesn't, he sends a quick email to say sorry, he got busy etc.
None of that took place the following day.
I decided I'd log into my account and see if anything new was of any interest to me. Whilst looking up his profile. Only to discover that he's changed his wants etc. He's now looking to "hangout" rather than "date". And his age preferences have gone from 28-40 to 28-32. Which means I can not even reply to messages he's already sent me via the site, since I no longer fit into his new age settings.
I've deleted him. I'm not interested in an excuse or finding out why. I mean it's POF. Men may start on this site with all good intentions of finding love or someone to date until they realize they can work less at being a gentleman and still find that there are
I'm back to square one. I'm a little bummed though. Not for JC however, for the fact that I thought I started out of the gates on a positive and I was ready to date again. I snapped myself out of that pretty quick.
Realized, again, no decent men are going to be found on any dating site as long as there are women out there who have no morals or standards. I'm deleting my account. Why stay on, I'm always disappointed.
Back to the old fashion way. Thru friends (not blind dates - just mutual friends), randoms, more face to face.
I'm sad to read this - before coming to blogworld I had no idea that so many guys pulled these switcharounds. I mean, I've got no experience of dating men, but I can't imagine most of the guys I know doing this (or maybe I just don't know that side of them!)
ReplyDeletePity party, table for 1!
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Caleb - yup. I gave myself a day to be all booohooo about it. I'm over it.
ReplyDeleteMatt79- I think most men, given the chance, will do this. It's common practice on dating sites.
Hence why I'm no longer going to be on there.
Good for you, I think you'll be better off.
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I've never tried online dating, but it seems like the sheer volume of people out there makes it that much easier for people to be picky and write other people off based on ... whatever they want.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could say "yeah, online dating really isn't the way to go" but to be honest, your chances through the random meetings and hook ups don't fare that much better anyway. The chances of meeting someone who is up front and honest about their intentions and wants are as good as me being able to predict the next earthquake here in Cali - pretty darn slim.
ReplyDeleteNot to be the Debbie Downer, but experiences like this really make you want to just stock up on the AA batteries and leave the dating scene alone!
@ Matt, sadly it does happen quite frequently and to be honest, I know there are women who do silly mess like the "switch up" as well.
POF is the worst of the worst. Seriously, I have yet to find a smart, amazing guy on there, and I've been on 6 or 7 dates. Girl, save yourself and never go back!
ReplyDeleteOn to the next!
Hangover - OMG you made me laugh.
ReplyDeleteI'm a believer in a jerk is a jerk, regardless of the venue, but when you meet someone face to face rather than a dating site; you get a better sense of the chemistry right then and there.
Simmarah - Welcome to my blog.
Thanks for the comment. Pof use to be okay. really it did. I've met a handful of men(who are still friends with) but no matter what site you're on, even the paid ones, you see the same people. :(
On to the next is right!