Learn To Use Facebook Status/Wall Properly....Geez

You would think that a Senior Art Designer/Director at thee largest video game company in the world, (now working for a small company in Montreal) would know a thing or two about basic facebook usage....

Meet my ex. My first real love. JW.
We dated for 8 yrs and been in touch monthly.or.every.other.month.in.the.last.13 yrs without fail.  He lives in another province now with his wife. Who btw, hates anyone associated with his past. Friend. Girlfriend. Old Boss, etc. doesn't matter. If you're part of his past, you're dead to her. 

This is the behaviour of a doctor who specializes in Epidemiology/Medicine. My point of mentioning that, she's super smart, should be level headed, rational etc, and yet, acts like a child when it comes to her husbands past relationships. Takes all kinds I guess.

He wrote on his FB status that he'd be "In Vancouver July 23rd - 27th!"
"Sweet!" Or so I thought.

Sent him a quick private message asking what he was in town for (family is here) business or pleasure etc and if he wanted to meet up for coffee.  Nothing out of the ordinary, as any other time he's been here, we've met up.

Here's our email conversation.

Just Saying:
Hey!

How long are you in Vancouver for? Business/pleasure?
Coffee before you leave?
778-XXX-XXXX..

Jw:

Couple of days. Won't work unfortunately. How do u know I'm in van?

Just Sayin:
Another time then.
Is a secret you're in town?...

Jw:

Heh no.

But I haven't posted anything about being here at all, so was curious how you know...

Just Sayin:

You updated your facebook status a few days ago to say you'd be here July 23-27th.

Jw:

Oh. Sorry I can't. There won't be enough time.

As I went to reply to this message, I discovered he deleted me. Then learned about a dozen more from our circle here in town, as they one by one started chatter on their walls.

Just Sayin:

Really Jw? Was it necessary to delete me? And the rest of the group?

As for not having posted anything... what do you think the facebook wall/status is for? It let's every.single.person. on your friends list know what you're up too.

Hope the move (amusingly) back to town goes smoothly. It should feel like moving to a new town again, not knowing anyone, having to make new friends, etc.

I doubt I will ever get another reply. Though from past history of dealing with his wife (g/f at the time) this would indicate that they're moving back to town.  Once I feel as though I've been kicked in the crotch and spit on for no apparent reason, I will not spare your feelings and will give you an unnecessary jab in return.

What? I never said I was mature.

Must suck not to have any balls, or a spine.

I could understand if say... I were a phsyco ex-girlfriend, or the group of us friends were planning his demise, sure, by all means then, delete us. But to do it cos a few of got excited to see him?

Simply wow.

If it had been anyone else, I might think I had done something to provoke it.

This time, it's all him.

The Monsters Den

She went back.

I got the email an hour ago from LC (old house guest).
"things are okay. I'm moving back into the house this weekend.  Separate floors etc"

I broke down. I didn't know what else to do.  She's moving from the women's shelter she's been in for the last week or so, and into the house with the monster who has
1- closed fist punched her, bouncing her off a wall, and dislocating her jaw the first time. 2 - less than 3 weeks later, I received an email that it happened again and she's in a shelter. 

Someone please tell me why in the name of God (yes God) would she go back?
I'm surprised the shelter didn't call the ministry and have the kids placed into foster care. Sure its unfortunate they would be separated etc, but it would be the first step of breaking the cycle. She can tell the kids all she wants that "this is not how you let someone treat you" etc.. sadly, until she starts to lead by example, her girls I have no doubt will be smacked around by boyfriends in their coming years.

I'm sadly preparing myself for a future, for a life without my best friend of 24 years... Yes we have our issues, but they're back burner right now. 

It saddens me with great regret that the next time this happens, she won't get up off the ground. It will end her life.  If she's still alive by our 40th/41st birthdays, I'll be seriously surprised and will buy a lottery ticket. Morbid? Maybe. Though it will be a miracle if she survives another 2 years on this planet living in the same house as this monster.

It's hard to sit by knowing there is nothing I can do but to wait for that call. The call learning her life is over. The abuse is over. Then what? Does he move onto the kids? I even doubt he would ever physically harm them, and a despise the man. The damage he's done to them via their mum will be a lifetime of therapy already. 

All I can say is that having Ativan on hand today was a blessing.
Anyone know how much Ativan you have to take before you get a good high on?
I've told to take .5mg -1.5mg, up to three times a day as needed.  I've only taken 1mg.

Work. Identity Theft. Professional Counselling.

A few weeks ago I went to my boss emotionally upset (thanks Elizabeth Singleton) to explain my frustrations about my work load and its lack there of.

Being emotional seemed to have worked this time! In the past I'd go into her office, with ambitions of taking on more responsibilities etc, and would end up with less... every time.

This time, it didn't work against me. Granted the amount of work I'm gaining is still very small, but coming to me in more frequent intervals. I'll take it!

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Currently searching for a counsellor to chat with on a regular basis.  I thought I had one near my house, however it seems, NO ONE works Fridays. NO ONE!  I guess if I'm serious about seeking professional counselling, I'll make it work. Though I'll exhaust all my options (mostly distance from work and home, and if they work Friday's or not).  If all else fails, I'll chose someone from my neighbourhood. At least that way when I'm done, it's a 3 minute walk home, not an hour bus ride etc.

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Random.
We're most likely going to be moving with a new coffee vendor at work. Most of the office seems to like the new stuff. However there is always one person in the mix, that even though she doesn't even drink the coffee, will continue to influence others that SHE thinks it's a waste of time and money etc.

Funny. Since I wrote the proposal and only the Controller, VP and CFO are aware of the new (btw considerably cheaper) prices.

I spoke with her about it today. She voiced her opinion, "I don't care, I don't drink it, but I think it's a waste of money, and the container it comes in, can't be healthy." What is healthy for us these days? I simply told her "Don't drink it, or concern yourself with it then.... "  I'll make note of it, but let others make their own opinions as there are a lot of people in the building who happen to like it, so far.

Sidenote: what you need to know about this person. She's a sweet person, I'm sure. But lives in a little bubble where her opinion is the only opinion. Which is often given with a scoffed tone. I look forward to the day when she has babies, has a child in school, has fund raisers, works for another company etc and her little bubble about life, the world, fund raisers for kids/schools, and other random things life throws at you, is abruptly busted. 

We have 60-70 people in the office and really, in the end, only TWO opinions matter when it comes to whether we switch or not. The Prez and VP. Period.

I'm slightly annoyed that I put this work into the costing etc, on request from several people, and with one very influential person, it can be undermined with a quick, flippant opinion. Just like that. In reality, it's probably not a big deal. I'm proud about the work I did on it, considering it was my first proposal of any sort.

We'll see in a few days I guess. 
But seriously, stop telling people the new coffee is shit when you don't drink it.

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Random.
If I say this out loud, again, it will come.
I haven't had my period this month. It's now officially 10 days late.
That should do it. It should arrive any day now... :)

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Some possible identity fraud has been attempted recently under my name.
Someone applied for a credit card, online, for a card I already have. Prompted to answer some "trick questions", they got a few wrong. This thankfully flagged my credit card company and a bureau to contact me.

I've cancelled my cards, changing my bank accounts/cheques etc. Called all the gov't dept I had to call regarding my SIN #, Birth Cert, Care Card, the police etc.
Everything with my name attached has been flagged with a "fraud alert".

Thankfully, my credit is still building and not good enough for anyone to really make any progress on stealing my identity, as far as my credit is concerned. But it makes me look like a credit chaser. An investigation from the financial bureau that monitors our credit scores etc, has been opened. Once they're able to prove I did not apply for a card I already have, they will reverse the ding against my credit.

It's a lengthy process from what I've been told. *sigh*. So easy to take my identity and yet it's a race against time and whomever is trying to be me, to prove I am who I say I am. Needless to say, it was a long 24 hours.

Now that I've done everything I possibly can. I received a notice that my new card will also have a new limit!. YAY ME! Credit is-a-building.

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That is all.

I look 12 years old.

I got my hair cut on Friday. I hadn't planned for a cut, only a deep conditioning to help keep having my blonde hair healthy.  One thing lead to another, and I now have short hair, (psst. S&P, its maybe shorter than yours) WITH BANGS!!!!!  :(

Not overly thrilled, but it WILL GROW BACK!  I have a feeling though, that once it starts to grow out, it will grow into a great cut. In all honesty, it probably needed to be chopped off. I hate the thought of having bad salad hair when I'm blonde....

....BUT I LOOK 12! :(

On another note, I think bangs might be in for later summer/fall. 3 other co-workers walked in with bangs, while I was writing this and doing other things.

Ranting Down; Funny Stuff Up.

On the advice of Caleb@ The Blog Experiment and Single & Picky,  I'm going to leave the issues I'm going to be working thru in the shrinks office.

In the wise, simple, and uncomplicated words of Caleb: "Better to keep the ranting down, and the funny stuff up." I guess that means I might have to let you into my warped brain of off kilter thoughts and humour.

I will attempt to keep the funny up, and the Debbie Downer ranting down.  Updates as to how the process is coming along will be blogged, though not in huge novel entries etc.

Suggestions for maybe a gimmick?

• Joke of the week?
• Embarrassing story of the week? *Story submissions are most welcome. Your name can be left anonymous if requested. Otherwise I'm leaving it in there. Who can beat this story?

Stuff like that.... input?